There are times that we have felt let down or felt rejected at work. How have you overcome this feeling and move into a more useful state of mind?
Absolutely! This feeling is common for everyone at some point of time. Rather than dwelling in that moment of rejection, it is important to snap out of it which I try my best to do! What do you all do??
A very common feeling as coomon as rejection is...initiaaly, there is a mixture of sadness and anger. But, if we treat rejection as feedback and not a failure, then the whole thing changes form. There is a clear understanding of what is expected, what I have been able to deliver, what more is to be done. In short, the gaps are clear and what needs to fill it becomes apparent. So, it is easy to mope and throw my weight around and blame the external...but if i look within, there's a lot of learning and a change in the way I look at rejection as a feedback makes me go into a learning space.
Not in any organization, but in college when I was a part of a fest organizing forum I was the head of the PR department and was constantly suggesting ideas and anchoring scripts, etc (which caused few fests to become big hits) due to constant flow of ideas and suggestions from me, they had started to be taken for granted. When I realised this I completely stopped providing inputs and it so happened that my co-forum members in the end came back to implementing my ideas only.
On the rejection, I never get disappointed or resentful cos it helps me to find my strength and core skill. Today I am feeling thankful for all those rejections as this transforms me today more happy and successful person in life.
There are times that we have felt let down or felt rejected at work. How have you overcome this feeling and move into a more useful state of mind?
Feeling let down or rejected at work creates anger, disappointment, makes you feel depressed,demotivated and impacts your self confidence.
First step to overcome any feeling is to accept that, allow yourself to go through all the emotions...But then do not get drowned in it...At times I cry..Then I gather myself and first try to engage myself in something else, get back to my routine stuff, do cleaning, cooking etc where not much of mind is involved ..This helps to release my pent up emotions.. Then I do self talk, introspection and see some positivity in it..It's because every situation helps to learn- I think why did I face rejection, there must be something within and try to work on it, improve myself. Also with every such situation I learn to manage my emotions..So when I do all the above I definitely move into a more useful state of mind.
Honestly I've never experienced that, so I can't say anything as such,
But I would love to tell people that when it comes to workplace... stay to your work and help your colleagues
And when it comes to personal life handle it personally... haha.
@keyur-shinde Failures and Disappointments are universal aren't they? But our attitudes can define how much we let failures and disappointments get to us!
I actually agree here with @chris-thomas. There's a difference between a personal and professional space. It's a fine line that one should not cross. Of course, at some times emotions can't be controlled but that does not give an excuse to let that affect our professional workspace.
@andrew-holland Emotions can be our greatest strength and our greatest weakness!
@helen-thompson, I absolutely agree. But if we can control our emotions in certain places, then I believe we should. You know, just to be a little professional maybe.
@daksh-singh Of course. In the professional realm, things are different. But otherwise, emotions are what create. Logic must be used for the short run, and emotion for the long run. What do you think, lovely community?
@helen-thompson Absolutely Helen! Although emotions are beautiful, they must be a strength, not a weakness! Learning how to wield emotions is the key to inner peace and overcoming failures and disappointments!
@bob-m Rejection might dishearten most. But turning rejection into an opportunity to improve is the best strength for one to have!